“Good morning New York. I’m sorry to bother you. I’m not hungry. I do not want food or money, I just need a little support. I got dumped last week and I’m trying to give her space but I can’t do nothing. If you have any words of advice for me, a quote that resonates with you or a story about second chances, please raise your hand and I’ll come to you. I have sharpie markers and I’ll stay as long as it takes.”
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I normally do not reblog this kind of shit, but for any dude that has ever been dumped, still in love and desperately tried to win her heart back, no matter the circumstance…this is legit shit. And do not give me that bullshit “dude, if she dumped you she obviously doesnt want to be with you, just get over it, you pathetic asshole”…First of all, fuck you. Second of all, fuck you.
Your comments are the epitome of rape culture and everything that is wrong with concept of friend-zoning. Fuck you. Like actually fuck you, you entitled piece of shit. Women owe you NOTHING. Women do know what they want, and if they dump you it IS because they don’t want to be with you. Stop perpetuating the sexist assumption that women don’t know their own mind. No means no, and any other interpretation is rape culture at work. You and your commentary can actually fuck off.
As for the OP: I’m speechless. “I’m trying to give her space, but I’m walking around with her face on a sandwich board and I’m convincing everyone that she’s the horrible person here and I’m so unfairly victimised.” Cool story, bro. Tell me more about how you’re irresistible and why everyone should want to be with you.
Reblogging to add: behaviours like this become even more terrifying when you consider that the riskiest time in a woman’s life is when she breaks up with a male partner (in that she is significantly more likely to be murdered than at any other point in her life). Too often that partner perceives the break up as a challenge to their authority/masculinity and take drastic action to either a) get them back or b) stop anyone else from having them either. That - in addition to the rapey/entitled undertones - is what makes this dude’s actions so fucking terrifying.
Reblogging again because I just want you all to know that this is not romantic. This is terrifying. Life isn’t some supercute heteronormative Hollywood rom-com where you’re the Manic Pixie Dream Girl and the guy you broke up with is Mr. Perfect who really is who you’re supposed to be with because the Universe wants it that way.
To “get her back” is not an honorable quest because: (1) women* are not objects to obtain, (2) women* are not your fucking prizes to obtain, and (3) if you don’t work out together, well, dude, you know what, maybe you just weren’t fucking meant to be.
This post is so bullshit. Why the fuck do we still need to alert people that “romantic” gestures like this are Diet Rape Culture moves?
This is 2012. Sadly, that doesn’t mean much.
Fuck it, man.
this is the scariest thing ever.
reason #45 why ‘nice guys’ are the fucking creepiest and worst ever
well I’m just going to say it: not one gives a shit. He wants to get his girlfriend back by making a grand gesture, a stupid one, but he’s not being sexist, a rapist, misogynistic, or any a stalker: he just wants her back and is going about it in a rather strange way. Get over yourselves and stop seeing women as victims when there’re not (and for the record I am a woman)
(Source: mendmyheart, via dr-killjoy)